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Hi guys. In light of #TransfermationTuesday I'm inspired to share. 2 weeks ago today I said goodbye to the most important person in my life. My mother❤. And without a doubt my world was changed forever. But despite the emotional lows, I realize that her spirit survives in me and i will continue living for the both of us💪. As life happens remember that we do not take this walk called #Life alone👣. Guided by #faith and not by fear you will find strength beyond measure and comfort in your darkest hour. 💋 #corenthians 12 #livedndy #goodvibes #EMBRACEtheJOURNEY #naturalhairrocks #redheads #Brooklyn #NYC #shameless #duality #fav #natural #4Cnatural #beautyblogger #curlygirls #teamnatural #ambition #believe
Sharing this post via instagram so soon after my mothers passing was probably the most uncomfortable and transparent moment that I have ever experienced. Just months before I had lost my farther and I had not posted anything about it. But with these losses combined I wholeheartedly believed the magnitude of the lessons learned in those two short weeks (or combined four short months) had to be shared. Like most, I too thought I had those dreaded moments figured out. I thought I knew how I would feel and how I would react. I assumed that sadness would over take me and some unimaginable amount of unbearable pain would destroy the foundation of fortitude in the woman that I, and everyone who loves me, had been busy constructing all of these years.
When the inevitable approached and it was time to say goodbye I found that I did not crumble, give up or come completely undone. All I did was pray. I prayed for peace, strength and understanding, not only for myself but for my family as well. The more time I spent talking to God the more peace I found.
For me, loss equaled change and change equaled growth. Though, I would have never asked to learn this lesson in this manner I am forever grateful. Grateful for my praying mother and father who instilled in me the power of prayer. And lets be clear, I did not grow up in bible study or singing in the children's choir lol but when my faith was tested the foundation ever present and for that I am thankful.
I could say that I don't know how I made it through something so tragic, but that would be a lie. And by no means do I want to paint the illusion that its was easy because it wasn't. But faith guided, protected and comforted me. Throughout those two weeks I learned so much about myself, so much about my strength, and even more about my faith. Everything had changed. My world had changed. I realized that once I stopped wallowing in fear and embraced faith, all would be well. I would find understanding beyond measure and the strength to make peace with what I could not understand.
Throughout life we will all be tested and with each test hopefully we learn something more about ourselves and about the realm in which we live and think. With hardship and adversity comes change. And within change there is growth. However you choose to cope, take note of the lessons learned, give thanks along the way, and remember that you are stronger than you could ever imagine. #livedndy
While enjoying Afro Punk Festivities this summer I had the pleasure of running into Cipriana Quann co-founder and editor in chief of Urban Bush Babes. While there, Cipriana gave me a piece of advice that has not only helped her to build her ever growing empire but may also be the key to obtaining any goal that we may set for ourselves.
If you are not familiar with Cipriana and her brand, she began her YouTube channel 2 years ago and focused mostly on the care and growth of her beautiful natural hair. I can remember the first video of hers that I saw. She was simply sitting on a couch with a friend walking us through their hair care process. Its crazy and exciting to see how much they've grown since then.
Now her brand has become more of a thread in the culture of the urban woman who's brave enough to step outside of society's box and find comfort in her own skin. The blog focuses on fashion, hair, art and culture, and over the years its caught the attention of main stage brands such as Vougue, HBO, Gap and others.
Only chatting for a minute, Cipriana gave me some sound advice, "Be consistent", she said. The two words stayed with me long after we'd parted ways. No matter the goal, being consistent is sometimes the obstacle that we all seem to stumble over at one point or another. Allowing our day to day lives to distract and deter us during our pursuit of success, we create excuses to support our inconsistencies.
We must admit that being inconsistent is pretty easy to do especially when you pair it with the false belief that success is measured by intelligence or birthright. But the truth is that for most people success, big or small, comes down to work ethic. And what makes for a healthy work ethic? Consistency!
Now, I'm not saying that its easy but its worth a shot and I believe there are 3 simple things to keep in mind while trying to master such an art.
1.Self Motivation: Self motivation is key in getting this whole idea off the ground. Rather it's reading daily affirmations, praying, chanting, or scrolling through #MotivationalMonday posts, this effort is needed to stay afloat in life.
2. One day at a time: Set short term goals for each day and focus on accomplishing only that. Takes steps towards meeting your overall goal. Biting off more than we can chew eventually, becomes overwhelming and leads to a world of excuses.
Which brings me to...
3.Accountability: Hold yourself accountable! No more excuses. Be honest with yourself about where you fell short and what improvements need to be made. But don't beat yourself up. Remember, tomorrow is a new beginning.
What was even more exciting than being able to tell Cipriana how much I admire her brand and congrats on the success, was that she was extremely kind. Passing along those two kind words of advice had the power to redirect the course of someones life that day. And I believe that she said it not only because she believes it but because she's lived it.
To learn more about Cipriana and her journey, check out her Vougue Video on Vougue.com.
Every now and then we like to highlight a little known event or place in NYC that promotes a cool vibe. The Lamb poetry slam is one of those events. If you're looking for a crowd of creatives to parlay and have a drink with, this is the group. Sorry we can't really pinpoint exactly how you can join the party but we can point you in the right direction. It wouldn't be called underground if it was easy to find, now would it?
Personally, I had a great time. I met a lot of wonderful and talented people that I still stay in touch with. This event in particular was held near union square at Nevada Smiths. Its a nice spot especially if you're into sports bars. Though it was three levels, the poetry event was held on the 3rd floor tucked away in the furthest corner of the room. The vibe was intimate and the room filled with artist, writers, singers and poets. Open mic wasn't offered but I'm sure if someone had asked that it could have been arranged. The music was great, the cocktails were strong and there was plenty of food.
I hope to attend this event again before the summer closes and if I know ahead of time Ill be sure to share with you guys.
27 Things to do Before Turning 27!
In effort to embrace my journey, and overcome my fears, I have created a list of 27 things to accomplish before turning 27. This may seem like a pretty ambitious list of goals to accomplish in a year, but I believe it is completely do-able.
All things listed are not necessarily fears to overcome. Some are simply things that I want to do but have delayed in the past for one reason or another.
Make a list of your goals to complete before your next birthday. Keep track of your progress over the year and don't forget to congratulate yourself for even the smallest of accomplishments.
1. Create a YouTube channel
2. Enter a model search contest
3. Run a 5k
4. Go on a casting call
5. Acknowledge my achievements
6. Visit LA
7. Workout 4 times a week consistently
8. Try pescatarian diet for 3 months
9. Take a cooking class
10. Host community service event
11. Host an "Ambitious Girls NYC" happy hour
12. Build DNDY New York
13. Take a pole fitness class
14. Complete script outline for feature film
15. Embrace my image
16. Take an acting class
17. Juice more
18. Cycle once a week
19. Promote brand on social media
20. Remain positive
21. Take a dance class
22. Read more
23. Complain less
24. Pray Every morning
25. Give yoga another try
26. Celebrate publicly
27. Stay humble